Loving yourself is harder than loving others

It's a shame how we love others more passionately than we love ourselves. Most find it hard to love themselves. Our expectations and standards are high when it comes to ourselves. It's about time we prioritize ourselves, our needs, and our comfort. Self love is necessary for a healthy, happy life. 

Some steps to self love - 

Voice out your opinion & remember it matters. 

Don't compare yourself to others. 

Don't be a people pleaser. 

Don't compromise your peace for anything. 

Don't give out things which you cannot afford. Be it love, money or time. 

Don't put up with people who demean you. 

Don't talk badly about yourself. 

Be kind to yourself. 

Believe in yourself. 

Let go of people who makes fun of whatever that makes you happy. 

Forgive yourself for your mistakes and learn from them. 

Treat yourself to your favorite things.

Be mindful of things that affects you negatively. 

Cut off toxic people from your life. 

Romanticize your life. 

Celebrate life. 

"To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance" - Oscar Wilde


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